Inspired by a lovely weekend at ‘Wild and Well Festival’ in Bristol with my incredible Mum. A weekend of Yoga, Pilates, healthy cooking workshops and panel talks discussing success, failure, following your passion, re-inventing education and re-thinking relationships for the modern World.
We all want to live a ‘successful’ life. We want to feel successful and we want others to believe we are successful, perhaps more successful than we actually are.
What does 'success' mean?
There is no denying that we live in a modern culture of success, power and social media, where we chase money, wealth, academic achievements, material possessions, powerful jobs, relationships. We can get stuck in a system which can be hard to escape.
Few people pause to consider what it truly means to achieve success. This can lead us down a dangerous path where we work hard to fulfill someone else’s vision of ‘success’.
I have spent a lot of time reflecting on my academic and working career; unable to remember the last time I took more than one week away from work, barely two consecutive days off training, and most worryingly zero days away from social media.
I live a happy life and I am proud of my achievements, but I know I could be happier. So, I have started to sketch out my own criteria for success, which is personal to me.
I have learnt that we are all capable of defining our own success and finding the ‘thing’ that makes us want to jump out of bed in the morning, that makes us smile everyday and empowers us to work hard. Failure and mistakes are fantastic, welcome them and feel grateful for the journey.
This week I resigned from my stable, fairly lucrative job as a ‘Senior’ Physiotherapist in private practice. It is not that I don’t enjoy my job but I spend every day managing other people’s expectations, putting my thoughts and emotions to the side, trying hard to create an image of confidence and knowledge, given that people are paying for my services.
It is not that I don’t enjoy my job, but surely there is a better way of doing it. Sometimes we feel that our only purpose is to join an economy but even then, we still may not be able to stay afloat. To me, failure is knowing in your heart what to do but then choosing the other option, the comfortable option.
So, I am taking a leap of faith and I have decided to play work and life by own rules. This may be distrastous but there is no way of knowing until I try. Fortunately, I am surrounded by a supportive network of friends, family and colleagues that have my best interests at heart and want me to succeed. I am sure that when you find your right path, you keep going and persisting regardless of how difficult it is.
After 10 years in a system, I am starting to discover the authentic me and I am hoping that by following my passion, work will no longer be work, it will all be play and I will appreciate a different definition of wealth. I will become the richest and most powerful I have ever been.
Key notes from the weekend:
Success may not involve money.
Find what makes you want to leap out of bed in the morning.
Do not be disillusioned or disheartend by the current education system. It may not compliment your best talents or creativity. This does not mean that you won't be ‘successful’.
Do not compare yourself to others.
Find a voice, your voice.
Selflessly thrive off other people’s happiness and success.
Mistakes are evidence that you are trying, keep going.
Be open to the journey.
We are always evolving with our experiences.
Surround yourself with a good tribe and no mood hoovers!
Have self worth and value.
Do not be afraid to escape the industrial revolution.
Persistence is under rated.